Crash My Party

“Crash My Party”

During life kids are told what they can and can not do at a very young age, but what people do not understand is that they should really just let kids act the way they want. Yes, to a certain point you have to let them know the difference between males and females. Make sure they have good manners and respect people the right way. Some people take the gender role too far and force too much on certain people. Most parents just want the best for their children and make sure they turns into a great young adult. “Crash My Party” is a very popular song by the country artist Luke Bryan “Crash My Party.”

Watching the music video showed me a lot about the song. Luke tries really hard to be able to see this girl. He puts up a sign that has an arrow pointing the way to his property so she has a better idea to get to the house. This instance shows me that he is hoping she is actually going to show up. He cares about her coming, so he is putting in a lot of effort.

In the beginning of the music video Luke sets up a wooden table outside with two chairs and puts candles on it. To me it is a feminine thing to do because most girls set the table and put in most of the effort for dinner with a guy. He does it all for the girl. Another key point is when he is in the process of setting up the table and realizes he needs to put something on for a center piece. So he goes out and picks a few flowers to put on the table. Luke is resisting the guy code because most men do not go out and pick flowers, but at the same time he is trying to impress the woman by picking flowers for the dinner. People could look at this in two different ways depends on who you are talking to. Men are supposed to be the ones being nice for the women and getting her flowers but most men will not just go pick them themselves they would just go by them. Luke is going out of his way to pick them which could be more of a woman action to pick up the flowers.

The song explains how a man can really care about someone. He explains several times when he says, “It doesn't matter what plans I got, I can break 'em” When that is stated in the song a lot of questions go through my head. Does he really care about her? What are his true feelings about her? Is he wanting to be with her forever? Is he just trying to impress her for just a little while? Most men won't drop everything for a girl unless he really cares for her and doesn't want anyone else to have her. It shows how a man can really care about someone he wants to be with. You will find men who will drop everything for a woman if he truly loves her. It normally is the girl who makes the effort to try to talk with a guy she wants to talk with. In the end it is normally the guys who decides when they should date or when they should get married, but in this song Luke seems to do everything he possibly can just to be with her.

“We can go raise some hell another night” is more of a male role. Men go out to find new friends to hang around with but his saying he will go out another night explains a lot. It tells the listeners he has his mind set on one individual and no one else. “Raising some hell another night” is him canceling plans with his male friends which if he was really not looking to impress this women he would have stayed. When Luke makes that comment shows he has respect for a girl he wants to be with and not trying to be with anyone else. He wants to be a man and be strong, make it clear to the women that he will do anything to see her.

“I will leave the door unlocked” is more of a male role. It shows right there that he is not afraid of keeping his door unlocked. He is acting very strong for the woman to make it clear that he can protect her. In the same verse he says “ I'll leave on the lights.” “I'll leave on the lights is something more of what a woman would do if she was afraid; it shows more of a feminine role. Luke wants to keep a light on hoping it will encourage the woman to not be afraid to come by because it will not be dark in the house. Leaving the light on, from a woman's point of view, will make her feel more safe and choose to show up knowing he cares to make sure she can see her surroundings. Most men try to act tough and shut the lights out.

Luke says “I do not mind dealing with the bros I cant meet em” is a very surprising thing a guy would say to his mail friends. For example when we read the story “Bros before Hos” it made point that guys are never really willing to skip plans that they have with their male friends for a girl. Hanging with the guys is a tough thing to do but when they decide to skip it to hang out with a girl, they will hear about it for awhile from their friends. Where as, a girl it is very different. The girl's friends will encourage her to go hang out with the guy. In this phrase he is willing to take the heat from his friends by ditching them to go meet a girl which in way can be shown he is manly. I believe that because he doesn't really care what the boys will say to him, he can handle whatever they might have against him for ditching out.

This song is a very good example of a guy who is not afraid to get made fun of for leaving his bros for a girl. He wants to be with someone and is willing to do anything just to make that happen. A few times he shows his feminine side but other lyrics show more of a manly encounter. He is really trying to impress this woman as much as he possibly can and is making sure this woman understands what he is willing to do for her. Throughout life girls will find the type of guys who will do anything for a women. To me that's not really saying they are resisting the guy code, its more like they are trying to show women they care.